You cannot do something without thinking of it first. If you want to walk outside, then you have to think about wanting to do it first. If it’s that easy, then why do most people who set goals never achieve them? Why do we put energy into thinking about what we want to do but never made a conscious effort to do it?
All of us have had goals in mind that didn’t pan out the way we wanted. When it happens repeatedly, then it can make us believe we fail at everything. These experiences help develop your mindsets. If you repeatedly fail at doing something, then you’re not going to want to attempt it anymore. Your past experiences and the emotional stress you felt leads to self-doubt. It leads you into limiting the belief that you can change your mindset into becoming the person you want to be.
At some point, your mindset will make you feel like you can’t achieve anything that will affect your mental wellness. You’ll suffer from stress, anxiety, and even depression because the negativity of not being able to change your goals will keep you in an endless loop of never knowing why you keep failing at achieving your goals. Changing your mindset comes down to wanting to change the reality around you. Many people give in to the notion that they have no control over their own lives and just go with the flow. However, there are some ways to boost your mental wellness by changing your mindset.
Small Goals To Build Confidence
If you’re at the lowest point in your confidence levels, then stop aiming so high and start small. Even if your current goal is to walk ten feet, then just walk one foot. It might sound silly but that’s an extreme example of how rewarding it can be to start small. People who want to lose weight often go buy new exercise clothes, a gym membership, and see people around them who are at a different level. They took the time and effort to get there.
Just because you see someone on the treadmill next to you running continuously without running out of breath doesn’t mean that you won’t be you someday. If you’ve continuously failed because you stress to overachieve, then it’s time to do the bare minimum. Start over. Make small goals to meet until you build confidence as well as the mental and physical endurance to make real progress towards your goals.
The People Around You
Sometimes our mindsets are based on the people around us. If you’re surrounded by negative people, then chances are, you’re going to think negatively as well. If you’re in a room full of people who don’t believe they can achieve their dreams, then you’re going to have a hard time doing so as well.
Everyone has people in their lives who do nothing to better themselves. They’re always negative and never take the steps needed to elevate themselves. The worst part is, they need someone to stay down at their level. When you’re in the position you’re in where you need to change your mindset, then it doesn’t make sense to have negative people stand in your way of success. Life is too short to remain in the same place, mentally and emotionally, forever.
If you want to build confidence and change your mindset, then you have to surround yourself with positive people. Don’t just surround yourself with people who are at your level wanting to move forward, surround yourself with people who are where you want to be. Have a mixture of people fighting with you, instead of against you, and who have already achieved the goals you wanted to achieve. Most of the time, we don’t know our capabilities until we see people achieve them. You have people you can succeed alongside with who you can share your doubts with and you have the people at the finish line cheering you on and giving you the motivation to keep moving forward to changing your mindset. You’d be surprised how much moving out of your comfort zone can drastically improve your mental health.
When All Else Fails: Quiet Your Mind
Sometimes starting fresh is the best way to go. You need to quiet your mind through meditation or just general relaxation to have a blank slate. Once you’re done meditating, then you can start over with a brand new way of thinking. Sometimes our minds are full of stress and anxiety in the world. We might also fear what happens tomorrow. This negative energy can cloud your current mindset. That just means that it’s time for a new one.
It’s time to accept that life is too short and your time is precious. It’s time to change your mindset for a happier and healthier you.